Monday, January 24, 2011

Time Passes Slowly

We're not even a month into the new year, and I really think it's going to be a hell of a year! For those of you who follow this blog (and yes, Sarah, there are more than family among our readers), I have never mentioned either my occupation or my employer, and that's not going to change today; but I will say that I moved on to a new employer (my choosing) and I couldn't be happier. It was as if the clouds parted and allowed the sun to shine through. Combine this news with Sarah's success and happiness with her self-employment venture, and I relish the coming year.

But the real reason I believe 2011 will be special is, of course, Elijah. Although sometimes it feels as if his autism is dominating his brain (his insistence on telling everyone he meets to"smile with your teeth" is wearing thin), he continues to show growth in all aspects of his socialization process. Every morning, as he bounds out of the car at school, he will greet any adult or classmate he sees. At a Cub Scouts meeting, he interacted with everyone he knew and enjoyed himself so much that we are participating in the "Pinewood Derby" for toy wooden cars this weekend. On the mornings I can't take him to school, he happily catches a ride with our neighbor Doug and his daughter, apparently yakking it up the entire way there.

But to me, the real show of progress was his request (actually, insistence) that two children he played with on New Year's Eve come over to his house for a playdate. A former co-worker of Sarah's who has a boy about a year younger than Elijah (and a little girl less than 2 years old) invited us over on New Year's Eve. Elijah, who had gotten to know Quinn during the past few summers at the local park pool, was very excited about going over to the house and counted off the days until the big event. When we got there, an added surprise, a little girl cousin named Zoey, was also there. After a little bit of getting-to-know-each-other time, the three played all evening long, which allowed the adults (there were eight of us) to relax and enjoy each other's company.

The next day I asked Elijah if he enjoyed playing with Quinn and Zoey, and not only did he reply in the affirmative, he asked if they could come over to our house to play. I could count one hand, with fingers to spare, how many times that has ever happened. Needless to say, I was overjoyed and insisted that Sarah start the process to get this done. When arrangements were finalized we put the date on Elijah's calendar and, as the date neared, he eagerly counted down the days.

Unfortunately, it appeared as if Mother Nature would put a crimp in our plans. Seven inches of snow had fallen a few days earlier, and now the weather forecast was calling for another four to five inches the day our guests were due to come over. Thankfully, the local weather people were as accurate as they always are, and all we got was a little dusting in the morning. Elijah was so excited he climbed up on a chair to move the clock hands, as if that would really make them come any earlier. (He mistakenly turned the hands back rather than forward, so it appeared to Sarah that the batteries had gone dead, and she insisted I change them.) When the young guests finally arrived, it was almost three straight hours of jumping, laughing, playing musical instruments, sledding (our backyard has a hill) and finally, cookie eating. It was a complete success!

These pictures may seem to be nothing but some kids playing together in the snow, but that's what makes them so wonderful to us. That Elijah not only asked for Quinn and Zoey to come over, but actually played and laughed with them, is an incredible milestone, one which I'm sure we'll be repeating soon. Yes, it's going to be a great year!

Saturday, January 1, 2011

No U-Turn on this gift idea


When you ask Elijah a question, there is a chance you might get a response, and on occasion, that response may actually relate to the question being posed. But when asked what he wanted Santa to bring him, Elijah told us without hesitation, "an International Sign Set and all the Sharpies." No surprise there. Any type of marker is always on his wish list, and anyone who has read this blog or gotten to know Elijah knows that outside of his obsession with basketball courts (which is off the charts), traffic signs are always on his radar. So, when Christmas morning arrived, under the tree with some games and books were his requested gifts from Santa. (A quick shout-out to all of the relatives who again contributed to Elijah's camp fund as his gift. Your generosity is very much appreciated, and no gift can mean more to him in the long run.)

As Elijah surveyed his haul, his eyes immediately locked in on a box marked "To Elijah from Santa."
"I want to open my International Sign Set now!" He knew the size and shape of the box -- Santa needn't have even bothered to wrap it. So much for that Kodak moment of surprise upon opening the gift.
But his smile upon seeing the signs and putting them together was worth a picture. The Sharpies also drew a big smile, but the fact that he is not allowed to draw basketball goals with them has tempered some of his enthusiasm. And since he can't go an entire day without drawing basketball goals, we hear, "Can I draw basketball goals not using the Sharpies?" on a regular basis. Ahh ... progress.












Sarah's parents came for the holidays, and it only took one morning of a 4 a.m. wake-up call of "Daddy, can I go downstairs?!!!" to drive Sarah's mom to Aunt Julie and Uncle George's house. So when Christmas Day came around, all four of them came by and brought Julie and George's gift -- a pad and software that allows Elijah to use a pen instead of a mouse while using the computer. Of course, while we all floundered (well, not all of us - George is an IT specialist), Elijah soon mastered his new device.












From reciting the Hanukkah prayer to insisting on decorating the tree, Elijah was completely engaged this holiday season. His insistence on driving through neighborhoods to see light displays (and not basketball goals) was also a nice change of pace. His joy at calling out the numbers while playing bingo and interacting with kids at holiday parties and social situations brings to mind what has became his "catchphrase" these past few months. Whenever he sees someone, Elijah insists they "smile with their teeth." When I look back on this past year with him, and how far he has come, it's a pretty easy request to fulfill.